June 2021 Goals

So I’m back this month with another monthly goals post, if you haven’t read my May 2021 Goals you can do so here. This month, I’m really hoping to take that next step in terms of getting out of my comfort zone. I feel as though I’m getting used to going to the shop, I’ve given myself time to get used to doing this and I feel like I’m ready to take that next step at conquering my anxiety.

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I’m in a really good place at the moment, and I kind of want to keep on building on this.

So, with that in mind, here’s my June 2021 Goals:

Blogging & Social Media:

Reach 100 followers on my poetry Instagram:

I’ve been running a poetry Instagram for just less than a year, and while I mostly do it to document how I feel and where I’m at with my poetry, it is nice to see my followers increasing. I’m hoping to reach 100 followers on there this month, so if you’re into reading poetry you might like to check out my poetry Instagram here.

Reach 3000 views on my blog:

For the past two months I’ve been getting around 700-800 views, which I’m really happy with given the fact my blog’s only been about since February/March. I’m hoping to reach 3000 all time pageviews on my blog this month, and depending on how it goes I’m going to push for an 1000 view month.

Publish 8 blog posts:

I’ve tried to keep to a schedule of posting at least twice a week, but that doesn’t really work for me. Instead, I’m just going to try and post 8 times, which is the equivalent of twice a week, but allows me some time to get inspired and write.

Reply/Return Comments On My Blog:

This was my goal last month too and I’m really good at returning comments that have been left on my blog, even if it does sometimes take me a day or two, but I’m not so good at actually replying to comments. I just feel like I don’t have much time, but I’m still going to try meet this goal anyway.

Publish 3 Poems To My Poetry Instagram:

I’ve not been posting as much to my poetry Instagram as of late, and it didn’t help that I deleted all the poems I had on the notes section on my phone a few months ago, but I’ve got a few ideas and I’m sure I’ll feel inspired enough to write at some point during June so I’m making it my goal to post 3 poems onto my Instagram.

Personal:

Enrol on an online course:

This was my goal for May, but time slipped away from me so I’m making it my goal to enrol on an online course this month.

Finish reading at least 1 fiction book:

I’ve been on a bit of a non-fiction vibe lately, but I really want to vary up what I read and I’ve got a few fiction books sitting on my TBR pile so hopefully I’ll get round to reading one or two of them.

Declutter My Wardrobe:

I’ve got way too many clothes, I’ve got a wardrobe full, a chest of drawers full and two baskets full of clothes – and that’s not including the ones littered about my floor. This month, I really want to get my life in order and I think it’ll start by decluttering my wardrobe of clothes I haven’t worn in a while.

So those are my goals for this month. What are you hoping to achieve this month?

Until next time,

Beth. x

10 Ways To Nourish The Soul

It’s easy to feel lost in life sometimes, when we’re out of sync with ourselves it can take the form of feeling lost or lacking direction or purpose. This is why taking the time to nourish our souls – the thing that is so hard to define but is so crucial to our wellbeing – is so important in our daily lives. Today I’m suggesting 10 different ways you can nourish your soul, to be done at your own pace, in your own time, when and if you feel like it.

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So, here’s my 10 ways to nourish the soul:

Meditation:

Setting up a meditation space, lighting a candle or an incense stick and just focusing on breathwork can be a great way to get back in tune with ourselves. It can help reduce stress, improve mood and for those who hold spiritual beliefs, meditation is a profound way to get in touch with your higher self, your angels, spirit guides – whatever you believe in. I’ve done a post of 7 ways meditation helps me if you want to give that a read for more information on the many benefits meditation has.

Get Out Into Nature:

Getting out into nature is a great way to ground yourself and nourish the soul. When in and amongst the trees, soaking in the sun and being at one with your surroundings, you’ll often find a boost in productivity and energy levels as a result. It’s also a great way to get back in tune with yourself when you feel out of sync and can be a very spiritual experience.

Yoga:

Yoga brings together the mind and body in such a way that it can leave you feeling rejuvenated afterwards. I’ve done a post about the 4 different ways yoga helps me if you would like to give that a read.

Practise Self-Care:

Looking after yourself emotionally and physically is one way to get in tune with your soul and nourish it. Sometimes it’s the little things that add up to leaving you feeling better. I’ve done a post all about a self-care routine for when you’re having a bad day if you would like to give it a read.

Pursue A Hobby:

Whether that’s painting or baking, music or crochet, pursuing a hobby that piques your interest is a great way to nourish your soul.

Read or Watch something inspirational and uplifting:

Reading or even watching something inspirational and/or uplifting is a great way to shift your perspectives, change the way you think and can leave you feeling warm afterwards.

Write/Journal:

Whether it’s journaling your day, writing down how you feel or practising gratitude through a gratitude list, I’ve done a post all about how to practise gratitude and the mental health benefits of journaling if you fancy a read, writing or journaling can really help you emotionally.

Declutter your life:

Decluttering your life can take many different forms, from old clothing you haven’t worn in over a year to decluttering your social media feeds of accounts that don’t uplift or inspire you. Clearing out your life can feel so therapeutic and can clear your mind of a lot of worries.

Exercise Regularly:

Looking after your physical health can in turn help you both emotionally and spiritually. Exercising regularly has proven benefits at alleviating stress through the release of endorphins and can help you feel more in tune with yourself.

Eat Healthy Food:

I don’t know about you but I always feel better after I eat healthily and nourishing your soul can come in the form of the simplest of things like having a decent meal.

So, those are my 10 ways to nourish the soul. I hope you enjoyed reading this post and wherever you’re at on your journey I wish you all the best.

Until next time,

Beth. x

Life Lately

I realise it’s been a little while since I’ve last posted, truth is I’m struggling a little bit for ideas at the moment. I have tons of mind maps and lists of ideas, but none that I’ve fleshed out into full blog posts just yet. So, I thought today would be a good chance to have a good old catch up with you guys as to how life’s been lately.

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Life lately has been pretty good overall, you know I said in a previous post that I’m planning to ditch the comfort zone after lockdown? Well, I’m getting there. I’m feeling good, most of the time, I’m feeling grateful for what I have and optimistic and excited about the future, most of the time.

Recently I did a huge social media declutter. I’d had the same facebook account since I was about thirteen and so I deleted it and made a new one. I’ve also archived most of my Instagram posts on both my poetry and main accounts, so I’ve really got that fresh start feeling.

I’ve been reading a lot lately, mostly non-fiction self-help books but I’ve been meaning to get back into reading fiction lately and have purchased a few new fiction books off Amazon.

I’ve also been meaning to purchase an online/distance course to keep myself busy and keep myself looking forward towards the future, as well as just for the enjoyment of learning in the here and now, but it’s difficult finding a day where I’m going to be in for it to be delivered. I’ve found one in creative writing and another in social media marketing and I plan on doing both at some point in the near future.

I’m really working on my personal growth lately, I realised agoraphobia had been running my life for far too long and I’m slowly making progress at working on this anxiety I have. Sure, there’s still times when I’m in the shop and I can feel an anxiety attack coming, or I feel faint, but I’m getting there. I’ve had enough of taking small steps forwards, and big steps back so I’m tempted just to dive in and live my life regardless of any anxiety I might feel, but then again I don’t want to put myself off of going out places in case I do end up having a anxiety attack so I’m still taking it step by step.

I’m really happy though because it feels like my world is slowly expanding again after being funnelled down for so long. It’s about five years now since I first began avoiding going out due to my anxiety levels, and I’m finally making progress and I’m so proud of myself for coming this far.

It’s important though with anxiety to take things at your own pace and to expect to have ‘off’ days, especially now since we’re coming out of lockdown and things are going to be returning to being busy again, it’s important to take things at our own pace and do whatever works best for ourselves.

Anyway, other than that, I’ve not been up to much, just treating myself to new jeans, new books and soon some new pots and pans. I want to change my kitchen’s colour scheme from rose gold and copper to mint green and lilac.

Blogging is going really well, each month I build on the success of the previous month and it’s really motivating thing for my statistics to increase each month. Sure, my blog’s growth is slow, but I’m getting so much more engagement on my content now compared to my previous blog, Quirks and Queries, and reading the comments sections on each blog post is really motivating too.

So, that’s how my life has been lately. I’m planning on starting an online/distance learning course soon, I’m working on my anxiety and planning on buying some bits and bobs for my kitchen. I really want to get back into baking sometime soon, something I haven’t really done since my mid teens and I mean I’ve got the cupboard space now.

That’s all for this blog post,

Until next time,

Beth. x

6 Activities For Personal Growth

I’ve been on my own personal growth journey for the past couple of years, of course, we’re always learning and growing, but I really homed in on this idea of personal growth a few years ago and since then I’ve been trying my best to stay proactive in my own personal growth journey.

If you’re looking for ways to enhance your own personal growth, then look no further. For today’s post I’ve compiled a list of 6 activities you can do for your own growth as a person.

Enrol on a online/distance learning course:

A great way to continue in your personal growth journey is to never stop trying to learn new things and taking an online or distance learning course is a great way to do just that. Whether it’s to learn something career-related or interest-related, you can find so many learning resources online and taking an online course is a great way to commit to that learning.

Push yourself out of your comfort zone, into the stretch zone:

Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone on a regular basis is a great way to grow as a person. For more information about the three different zones we exist in and more then check out my recent post Why I’m Ditching The Comfort Zone After Lockdown.

Start a Journal:

Journaling is a great way to express and explore your emotions, thoughts and even behaviours on a day to day basis enabling you to analyse yourself, see the bigger picture and see where you’re at. It’s also a great way to measure your emotional growth over a set period of time i.e how you handle your feelings.

Reading:

Books are full of knowledge, whether that’s fiction or non-fiction and immersing yourself in a good book can open you up to ideas you’ve never had before.

Pursue A Hobby:

Hobbies are great because they both relax and inspire you and feeling inspired is one of the corner-stones to growing as a person. If you feel inspired you’re more likely to take inspired action. It’s also a great way to stay in tune with yourself.

Spend time with friends and family:

Not only does having a good social life reduce stress and improve emotional wellbeing, ensuring you’re in an emotional place to be able to grow as a person. It also gives you chance to learn new things and explore new ideas in conversation.

So those are my six ideas for personal growth, I’m sure there’s plenty more I haven’t thought of.

7 Ways Meditation Helps Me

So I posted a blog post earlier this week about the 4 ways yoga helps me and I thought as a continuation of that I’d talk about meditation and the benefits I’ve found it has. Meditation, for me, is both a personal, spiritual practise, as I’m sure it is for a lot of people, I’ve been meditating now for almost a year and in that time I’ve noticed huge changes in how I feel.

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So, here are the 7 ways meditation helps me:

Helps me process emotions:

By learning to sit with and either explore or simply observe your emotions, you learn to process them a lot better. Rather than reacting instantly to an emotion, taking time to pause and reflect, whether that’s just in the moment or through meditation practises, you learn to process these feelings in a more healthy way. All emotions are transitory, some may take longer than others to pass, but meditation definitely helps me process them.

Combating negative thoughts:

Learning to observe your thoughts is the first step in combating negative thoughts, and I do this through meditation. Thoughts are like clouds, I don’t know where I heard this from, but I like this idea. Some pass over really quickly, others hang overhead and linger. With time and practise, meditation can be used as a tool in combating negative thoughts in a subtle way – by simply sitting with them, letting them have their time and then ‘watching’, or visualising them float away.

Offers a fresh perspective on life’s problems:

We all have our problems in life, and I find that after meditating I can come back to an issue and see it in a new, more rational light. I can often see solutions to problems that I’ve been ruminating over after I’ve spent, say, 30 minutes meditating.

Reduces Anxiety:

If I’m feeling particularly anxious, I’ll take the time out of my day to meditate – to focus on my breathing and simply observe my anxious state until it subsides. While it’s not a cure, it definitely helps.

Reduces Stress Levels:

If you’re having a particularly stressful day then taking time out to meditate can definitely help in reducing stress levels and bringing you back into the present moment.

Better Sleep:

I usually meditate in the evenings and I find that I think a lot less, ruminate a lot less, before I go to sleep. I can get to sleep quicker and wake up a lot less too.

Helps Me Connect Spiritually:

I don’t really talk a lot about my spiritual beliefs on here, I suppose in some ways I’m still trying to articulate what it is I believe in. Nonetheless, meditating definitely helps me connect spiritually to myself, it enables me to connect with my higher self and so much more.

So those are the seven ways meditation helps me, do you meditate? How do you find it?

Until next time,

Beth. x

Why I’m Ditching The Comfort Zone After Lockdown

This past year I’ve pretty much been in hibernation, I used lockdown as an excuse to hide away from my anxiety but it wasn’t all bad – I did make huge strides in my recovery from mental illness. I’ve been working so hard on improving my mental health through journaling, improving my diet, exercising, meditation, practising gratitude, deep introspection and yoga.

I’m pleased to say I’m back on track now and I’m thinking more towards the future and how I want to go about building a life for myself that I’m happy with. I’m not saying the key to happiness is solely built on preparing for the future, no, I personally think it’s about finding that balance between happiness, joy and contentment in the now and excitement for what’s to come. I’ve learnt that a lot through my gratitude practises as the only moment we truly exist in is the present; if you haven’t read my post yet on how & why you should practise gratitude you can do so here.

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This year, after lockdown’s over, I’ve decided to ditch my comfort zone and here’s why:

We exist in three zones at any one time – our comfort zone, our stretch zone and our panic zone. Our comfort zone is where we feel comfortable and secure, our stretch zone is where we’re able to learn and build and grow through experience and action and our panic zone is where we feel overwhelmed, insecure or unsafe.

The comfort zone limits personal growth:

Our comfort zone is either a literal place or a set of experiences and actions that we’re most comfortable with. Therefore, not a lot of personal growth happens in our comfort zone. My goal is to spend as much time in the stretch zone as possible after lockdown, I want to really push myself to live more, grow more and experience more of what life has to offer.

It’s boring:

Living your life in the comfort zone tends to become stagnant after a while, so I’m adding in little steps to expand my comfort zone/spend more time in the stretch zone this Summer. That’s not to say the comfort zone isn’t important or serves it’s purpose, but spending all your time in the limits of your comfort zone can become quite boring.

There’s exciting and new experiences to be had in the stretch zone:

If there’s one things that lockdown has taught me it’s what I’m comfortable with and what I’m uncomfortable with in terms of going places and being out and about and what not. What I’m doing to work on this is slowly introducing new experiences into my daily life. I’ve been doing this for the past month or so and already I’m experiencing a lot of personal growth, a reduction in my anxiety levels and improvement in my overall happiness with life.

So, that’s why I’m ditching the comfort zone after lockdown. I hope this post has left you with a little more understanding about the comfort zone and maybe has inspired you to leave it behind sometimes too and lastly, wherever you are on your journey – I wish you all the best.

Until next time,

Beth. x

4 Ways Yoga Helps Me

A few months ago, I bought a yoga mat from Amazon. I thought, well, I’ve tried meditation and that’s helping, so why not try something else that’s often recommended as a way to boost your mental wellbeing? That’s when I began to practise yoga. Sure, I wasn’t very knowledgeable about yoga, I mean, I knew a couple of poses from when I used to do it years ago, but that’s besides the point.. Practising yoga in a mindful way has helped me so much. This, along with other changes to my lifestyle such as the food I eat, my meditation practises and journaling and practising gratitude has helped boost my overall wellbeing so much.

Anyway, here’s how yoga helps me:

Improves my sleep:

I’ve noticed an actual improvement in my quality of sleep lately, and although there are other factors that come into play not just the fact I’ve been doing yoga, I believe yoga has been a huge help in this.

It resets my anxious mind, making me feel less stressed:

Taking the time to get in tune with myself, similar to meditation, helps reset my mind when I’m anxious. It gently pulls me back to the present moment and makes me feel less stressed.

Gives me more energy:

I find that yoga makes me want to work out. I don’t know why, it just does. I usually start and end my work-outs with yoga practises. It gives me more energy in general.

I’m better at looking after myself:

Yoga is brilliant at connecting the mind, soul and body and I’ve found that since I started practising yoga I’m better at looking after myself and doing my self-care routine for example.

It’s still early days on my yoga journey and I’m reading lots of blog posts at the moment to fully understand the different poses and what not and how to incorporate it into my spiritual practises – like meditation, journaling and stuff but I’m optimistic that yoga will continue to help me and improve my mental health.

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May 2021 Goals

I posted my four goals for 2021 a few months ago and I’m pleased to say I’ve already achieved two of these goals. So, today I thought I’d set myself some monthly goals to help keep me on track in life. I’ve split these goals into blogging and personal goals just to make things a little bit easier for me. When it comes to ticking things off this month, there’s a lot I want to achieve. I’m optimistic that this new chapter in my life will be so beneficial for my personal growth and my main goal is to just move forward in life and really give it my all.

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It can be difficult with an anxiety disorder at times, as it can really work against me sometimes, but it’s time to let that go and just live my life how I want to. It’s not going to be easy, but it might be easier than I think it’s going to be. You get me?

Anyway, here’s my May 2021 Goals:

Blogging and Social Media Goals:

My blog is a huge sense of purpose for me and without it I feel a bit lost, so I’ve set some goals to help build my audience and improve engagement.

Reach 2000 pageviews:

I’ve only got about 600 views left to go before I reach this milestone and I’d be so happy if I managed to achieve this. In order to reach this goal I’m going to publish blog posts regularly and of course promote them! Twitter is my best source of traffic so I’m going to focus a lot on that this month.

Reply & Return All Comments:

I love receiving blog comments, but I’m not always the best at responding to them. Of course I read and appreciate every single one of them, but I often leave them until later. This needs to change if I’m going to keep up with all the comments. In order to achieve this goal I’m going to try my best to reply to comments on my blog posts and return the comments on other people’s as and when they occur.

Write and Post 3 Poems On My Instagram:

I’ve paused writing poetry recently as I’ve been so busy and my mood has been really good so I don’t feel the need to express myself creatively as much. However, over the past few days I’ve found the inspiration has come back in a completely different way than it has done before. I’m seeing everything from a different perspective and I’m finding it’s an interesting angle to write poetry from. I’m hoping to share some of my work again on my Instagram soon and I’d love it if you could follow along in my poetry journey.

Personal Goals:

These are the goals that are more personal to me and are away from all things blogging and social media. These are the goals that really focus on improving my day to day life.

Start an online course:

I’ve been meaning to start an online course for quite a while and it finally feels like the right time to do just that. In order to achieve this goal I’m going to have a browse around different distance learning websites and find the course that’s right for me. Having something to work towards will really help boost my mood levels and general happiness in life.

Get out for some Photography:

I feel like I haven’t used my camera outdoors enough since I bought it way back in 2019. I do a lot of indoor blog photography, so basically notebooks and pretty things on a marble tray, but I haven’t done a lot of nature photography, especially recently, so I’d love to get back to doing that. I used to notice all the colours and shapes in nature and it was a brilliant exercise for grounding and I think it’d really help improve my mental health as hobbies are so important.

Get out for a walk:

I’d love to take my morning coffee and just walk to the shop or something. Small steps though, I’ll get there.

Practise Gratitude Daily For 31 Days:

I’ll be honest, gratitude is a practise I slip in and out of doing, but I want to see results and in order to do so I’ve got to be consistent with practising gratitude. Who knows? In 31 days I might look back and be glad I did it as I’d be happier in general. We’ll just have to wait and see. I’ve written a blog post all about how to practise gratitude and you can read that here.

Meditate more regularly:

I find meditation just resets my anxious mind, and it’s such a helpful tool so I’ll be trying to incorporate more meditation into my month.

So those are my goals for May 2021. What are you hoping to achieve this month?

April 2021 Reading Wrap-Up

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You can buy all of these books from Amazon.

This month was definitely a reading month for me. I don’t think I’ve read as many books this month as I have done in any other month before, hence why I decided to make this blog post. I’ve made a definite dent in my Spring 2021 TBR pile and I wanted to share with you guys today about all the books I’ve been reading this month.

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Women Don’t Owe You Pretty by Florence Given:

I’ve seen a few people post this on their Instagram’s and I’d also read a few reviews on blogs before I decided to purchase it. This book definitely opened up a door to me to non-fiction books and I’ve since purchased more non-fiction. I really enjoyed reading this book despite not being used to reading informational books. I’d definitely recommend this book as it covers such important topics such as feminism, lbgtq+, along with privilege and so much more.

Notes On A Nervous Planet by Matt Haig:

I’d read Reasons to Stay Alive by Matt Haig and I really liked that book so it made sense for me to purchase Notes on A Nervous Planet and I’m glad I did. The short, to-the-point chapters made it an easy read and I really liked what it had to say about topics such as anxiety in the modern world.

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Good Vibes, Good Life by Vex King:

Another book that I’d seen a lot of people talk highly of was Good Vibes, Good Life by Vex King. As an introduction to self-help it’s key reading and it covers topics such as self-love, the law of attraction, raising your vibration and so much more. I’ve reviewed this book on my blog if you want to take a look at it.

Healing Is The New High by Vex King:

Vex King’s latest release is all about overcoming emotional turmoil and I found it extremely helpful. It’s full of information on how to best help yourself as well as practices delving into your limiting beliefs and where they come from as well as meditation practices. I didn’t do all the practises as, personally, I’m not yet ready for them. Overall, I really enjoyed reading this book and it left me feeling more motivated to make positive changes in my life. I especially enjoyed the visualisation exercise found in one of the later chapters.

101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think by Brianna Wiest:

I’m still currently reading this book, but I know I’ll finish it within the next few days so I’ve included it anyway. I’m really enjoying this book so far as it’s definitely giving me stuff to think about. I really enjoy the format of the book being short chapters as it makes it great to just pick up, read a bit, get your thoughts going and then put down for a little while.

Onto poetry:

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The Mermaid’s Voice Return In This One by Amanda Lovelace:

Not my favourite poetry book I’ve ever read, but I enjoy reading different types of poetry to see how other people go about expressing themselves. I love the concept behind this collection of books – the princess saves herself in this one, the witch doesn’t burn in this one and the mermaid’s voice returns in this one, but it’s not my favourite poetry.

Pillow Thoughts 2: Healing The Heart by Courtney Peppernell:

I‘d actually reviewed the Pillow Thoughts book series before and then I realised a few weeks ago when I was looking at my goodreads that I hadn’t actually finished the 2nd book in the collection. I really enjoyed this book series as the poetry is so relatable and warming. I definitely recommend adding it to your TBR if you’re into poetry.

The Moon Will Shine For Us Too by Jennae Cecelia:

I’ve read a lot of Jennae Cecelia’s work over the past few months and I enjoyed them all, some more than others sure, but this is one of my favourites by Jennae Cecelia. I finished this book in about 20 minutes, I only wish it was a longer book.

So those are the books I read in April. If you have any recommendations for poetry books please let me know in the comments below as I can’t find any I like on Amazon that I haven’t already read.

Good Vibes, Good Life by Vex King Book Review

So I’m back with another book review today after reviewing the Pillow Thoughts Poetry book series a couple of weeks ago. Today I’m reviewing a recent read by Vex King titled ‘Good Vibes, Good Life’. As an introduction into self-help and self-growth books it definitely serves it purpose. I’m new to reading this type of non-fiction and I’ve got to say I thoroughly enjoyed reading it.

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Split into seven sections with small, easy to read chapters. I’d normally look at a non-fiction book of this size and think ‘nah, it’s not worth my time’ and I frequently have, but the smaller chapters definitely helped matters and I finished this book within 3-4 days, half an hour each day.

The book covers a range of topics from the law of attraction and the law of vibration to manifestation. It’s great as an introduction into these topics as it explains them so clearly. I had some previous knowledge of these topics from social media and through reading blog posts, but having it all in one clear to read book was definitely helpful.

The book left me feeling motivated and keen to make changes in the way I go about my life while also giving me the info on how to do just that.

I feel like, from reading this book and using and applying the inspirational information found within the 250 or so pages, I am one step closer to living my best life and if a book can do that I’d definitely recommend it to anyone who may feel as though they’re stagnant or stuck in a negative frame of mind.

Anyway, I am now onto reading ‘Healing Is The New High’ also by Vex King. I feel like Good Vibes, Good Life has definitely opened up a door in terms of what genres I’m now open to reading, which is great.