Why You Don’t Need To Glow Up

I think it’s most important to do whatever is best for you in life.

In recent years the idea of a glow up has become very prominent on social media. We as a society believe in this idea that after a hardship such as a break-up, you need to have suddenly and drastically change your physical appearance in order to be seen as having moved on from such an event. At it’s core, a glow up is simply about having the confidence to be your best self, but I think social media takes away from that concept and further perpetuates the idea that you need to be seen as having had a glow up in order to feel as though you’ve had one.
Well, I guess I just wanted to pop on here and say that you don’t need to glow up. You don’t need to suddenly appear more attractive to other people than what you used to look like. You don’t need to do anything.
Of course, moving on from such hardships is very important for your wellbeing and I’m not trying to take away from that. It’s never good to stay in a negative place emotionally forever and while ‘glowing up’ can be a natural and very important part of the process of moving on for some people, it’s not necessary.
It’s important to remember that you are already complete within yourself, you already have everything you need to succeed in whatever you choose to do in life and physical appearance really isn’t as important as you think it is.
Sure, glow ups can be great and when you look at your own before and afters it can really boost your self-esteem. In my opinion though, I think it’s more important to prioritise how you feel on the inside as opposed to how people may perceive you.
I’ve seen plenty of glow up challenges that focus on looking after yourself through staying hydrated, eating well and exercising and I think these are great ways of perceiving the idea of a glow up but as a society we focus way too much on appearance and how we appear for the gram.
For now, I just wanted to leave you with the message that if you are in this position where you feel you need to drastically change your appearance and have a glow up because you’re not happy with who you are as a person, remember that you are already whole within yourself and that should be the most important thing at the end the day.

Until next time,
Beth. x

Published by thefloralfacade1

Hi there, I'm a lifestyle blogger/content creator/poet from Shropshire, just blogging my way through life.

29 thoughts on “Why You Don’t Need To Glow Up

  1. This is true, you don’t need to have a glow up for life to improve, and you should know your own worth without social media. But I get that it’s nice to share if you’re proud of how you’ve changed too, whether that’s physically or a lifestyle change x

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  2. Heartfelt and spoken! Glowing up should be more of a lifestyle than a trend. If we love who we are and are at our best as much as we can be, we are already shining. ❤

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  3. Great post! I really, really like this. I feel as though there’s such a pressure to rise and transform and be the best when really, it’s okay to just be yourself and get through. Who you are is very much enough. Thanks for sharing!

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  4. I love this post! We and society put so much pressure on ourselves to behave in a certain way and the glow up for me is just a step too far.

    I’ve seen people talk about the lockdown glow up and it just puts so much pressure on the rest of us x

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  5. Reading this is soo refreshing. Honestly, the pressure to emerge from lockdown looking fit and beautiful is actually too much. I’ve been working out but only to keep my brain from overworking. I don’t want to be any different, it’s been such a hard time and the last thing I want when we’re all allowed out is to be judged on what I look like!

    Rosie

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  6. This was such a great read! You’re completely right that everything is already inside us and the need for a glow up to be liked by others is just put up by society! Thank you for sharing x

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  7. This is a much needed post today. As you said, glow up has become something which is determined by external changes instead of internal and lifestyle changes. People’s glow ups have to be SEEN in order to be considered one now. We really need to move away from that definition. Great post x

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  8. I appreciate your perspective on this so much. You’re right: glowing up should just be about an exterior change for social media. But we should definitely appreciate the strides we’ve taken and changes we’ve made to our mindset, the way we’ve grown with our education, etc. It’s good to appreciate THAT kind of glow-up (and of course, it’s alright to appreciate an exterior glow-up as well if we’d like)! 🙂

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  9. This is such an important post, I honestly think sometimes the work you do internally can’t be seen, but it is t here in the way that you act everyday, the way you deal with challenges that come towards you.Thank you so much for talking about this! This is so important!

    Love, Amie ❤
    The Curvaceous Vegan

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  10. Love this! I feel like with us heading into a potentially normal summer, there’s such an emphasis on having a glow up and I really feel like you don’t need it!

    Katie | katieemmabeauty.com

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  11. This is all so true, social media can be very toxic and I’ve definitely been jealous of a lot of people I’ve seen on Instagram! But self worth is so much more important!

    Great post!

    Jared x

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  12. Excellent advice here! I’ve never been one for “re-inventing” myself after every emotional milestone. But as you say social media seems to perpetuate this notion. Keep being you!!!xxx

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  13. Such a great message and so important to remember! I agree; how we feel on the inside is so much more important than how we look on the outside. Way too much time and energy is spent on impressing others. Wonderful post!

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  14. Wonderful message – love to hear it! Thrive inside first & foremost, that exterior glow up is VERY optional. Our social media culture doesn’t make it easy to remember that order of priority, but with messages like yours, I’m sure it will help someone out there that needed to hear this today.

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  15. You’re posts always hit home, and are a great influence on anyone reading them. I’ve seen a bunch of glow-up TikTok trends and wished that I could glow-up too. There’s a lot of different views on glow-ups, from exercise and taking of your skin/body to just waiting for puberty to hit. And I think these are healthy ways to change, but people also have toxic ideas of glowing up, such as becoming their ‘perfect self’. Or having to change until the media thinks it’s a glow-up. This is a very positive take on glow-ups, and how you already have everything you need to succeed. Thanks for this Beth!

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  16. I totally agree with you. Their is nothing wrong with being just you and confident in yourself. I think with social media and the news, and magazines showing glowing up like its normal can be bad. If someone wants to change there is nothing wrong with that but it is also nothing wrong with just being you and being confident in yourself no matter what you look like. awesome post.

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  17. This post was spot on! You are completely right about the fact that glow up has become so much of an external thing whereas it is meant to be internal. How we feel on the inside is more important than how we look on the outside and more time should be spent working on ourselves and our wellbeing rather than glowing up externally. I agree that It’s important to remember that we are already complete within yourself, we have everything we need to succeed in life and physical appearance tho important, isn’t as important as we think it is and shouldn’t be the main priority. This was a lovely post to read. xx

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  18. Yes to this post, you’re so right in every way! Physical glow-ups aren’t necessary and as a society, there is pressure to have a ‘big change’ after momentous life changes. But as you said, it’s more about growing within yourself and learning to love who you are which is the most important thing x

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  19. Amazing post! Thank you for sharing this as it’s so important! I totally agree with you that it’s much more important to focus on yourself mentally and it’s not all about what you look like on the outside!

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  20. Such an important message and you’re so right, there is so much pressure. It’s like the pressure of the first day of a new school year but every single day!

    Thanks for sharing

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  21. This is a beautiful post and I definitely agree! Self care has become something that has been deemed “Instagram worthy” and I think it’s important to realize this.

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  22. Yes! This! I hate that society has turned the concept of moving on into some competition of being ‘good enough’ to reach the status of a ‘glow up’ first. While I AM a huge fan of changing my hair colour with my mood (both good and bad), I think that any personal changes should be because you WANT to, not because of some crazy expectation tha you SHOULD due to what you’re currently going through in life.

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